My sympathies and condolences for you and your family, The struggle never ends does it.?? If there's anything positive that you can take out of the experience, by all means, snatch it up and run with it.. and don't ever stop. Communiities exist to help one another out in hard times, and you're online community here is here to support you in any way that might be necessary. Stay as positive as possible and push through positively to the next struggle that you'll surely encounter at some point in the future.
The key is not asking "why" something is thrown in your path, but how to get over the obstacle. You'll never know the why part, you'll just have to be prepared to use your ingenuity to get over the next log thrown in the road. Keep your head up marty! You've got positive energy being sent your way from Madrid, SPAIN. HOpe you get it!