+1 for Texas for both BBQ and steak. Best BBQ is probably in the Texas hill country, and at a place that's only signage is a rusty old sign that simply says "BBQ"...
BBQ must be with lid closes and with a real fire, never gas, you get better authenticity points if you made your own smoker, and super bonus points if it was made out of an old fridge!
Grill, doesn't matter as much but I usually tend to go for lid closed with a mind towards the lower temp (4-500 F). I usually only want it just that side of done for chicken, burgers and pork. Steaks, lids closed for pre-heat and then I only give them 3-5 minutes per side with the lid closed as well.