i solved this problem for those who may in the future be in the same situation i'll explain it.
the problem wasnt with the bracelet end link dimensions as previously thought, staring at the problem seriously for a little bit made me realize the position of the drilled spring bar holes on the interior of the lugs was too far forward (China, TW QC) . without installing a spring bar the lugs fit fine, once installed there were gaps in the front between the case and the lugs. Solution bend some spring bars into a slight 'U' shape, more like a preachers curl bar to allow the link to go forward but still lock in the holes. some crappy spring bars split in half when i tried to bend them, but luckily I had some high quality spring bars from my OMEGA AD that I paid a total of $1.50 for after taxes from their student intern guessing their value, very good quality. I bent them with some force, never snapped or showed fatigue. Happy to report bracelet now fits 95% properly, the lugs still look like they over step the sides of the end link a little too much or dont follow the contour perfectly, hopefully I can keep my OCD neurosis in check.