Most difficult conversation in my life.

[Cats]

RWG thanks for all the messages is the wristcheck 24 Sept.

I was always open on this forum about my illness and had a lot of support from several good friends who supported me against my fight.

Last night i had to tell my 12 year old son that the luck i had for more the 6 years is coming to an end.

The latest scans showed that after more the 2 years of continuous chemo pills the tumors got into my liver. He was already prepared by me that it could be that his dad hasn't got a lot of time left anymore , but i defeated all the statistics so i would do it this time again. I started a new chemo yesterday which might slow down the growth and reduces the pain , but mainly i'm doing it for my son to show i'm not quitter.

My oncologist advised me to go to a specialist in the hospital who is specialisted in how to cope with this situation and give him support in the mourning process that he will have to face.

I'm prepared and in some case ready for this situation knowing that sometime i would get this message but i would like you to give a prayer for my son who is too young to loose his dad. I hope i still can spend a lot of time with him but kidney cancer in liver , longs and bones is a bit too much.

Carpe Diem

Cats

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[denimhead]

Not sure really what to say cats, you've been a fixture here for as long as i can remember. I guess its a case of making the most of everyday and live life to the full as best you can mate. I have a ten year old son and have now idea how I'd personally deal with this situation myself if something like this happened to me.

All i can do i guess, is wish you well my friend

Cheers DH

[436NR]

I'm very saddened to read your post Cats. I know that it's been a tough road for you and your family. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers to you and your son.

I know that you must've tried everything and read a lot. But just in case, I thought that I would throw this out there. My mother in law has stage 4 lung that has spread to her adrenals and bones. We thought she was at her end. Then there came up a trial that she tested positive genetically for. It's a promising immuno-therapy drug. Four months in now and all her tumors have liquified.

My intention is not to give you false hope, but just a "hey have heard about this?"

Again, I'd rather say something than not.

I wish you good luck and hope.

P

[lhooq]

My heart breaks for you and your son, Cats.  Keep fighting, and know that both of you are in my prayers. 

[436NR]

Cats, go to inspire.com. There's some good info there to help.

[ceocorona]

My prays go you to you and your family Cats.  

[Mike on a bike]

Cats,

  Our thoughts and prayers will be with you.

                                                          Michael

[dvn]

Stay strong and positive and keep on fighting Cat. It is very sad to hear about your situation and my prayer go out to your son.

Take care.

[droptopman]

Cats,

So sorry to hear about your situation. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

May peace be with you.

Mark

Sent from my droptop using telepathy.

[jkarpas]

I am really sad to hear this Cats, try to fight it till the end, don't quit and always think positive. I think you are a great role model to your son and its truly a blessing that your son is healthy and close to you.

Take care

[Legend]

Each time I see a post like this, I am humbled and reminded somberly about the frail nature of human life. Like delicate flowers we invariably bud, blossom, wither and die. Nobody escapes the process. The difference is the beauty, happiness and meaningful values we bring to others during our existence.

I feel for you Cats, I truly do. I have two young boys which I'm living for, which I love enough to give my life for. I salute you as a true warrior who has relentlessly trudged on against the odds, and I embrace you, a complete stranger, because compassion and kindness are universal gifts, given from the heart to anyone who needs them regardless of culture, distance or language.

I wish you new strength to persevere on, for your boy and for yourself. I shall remember your boys in my prayers.

If you do succumb at the end, I would have you know that you'll rest the sweet rest of the victorious and intrepid, showing what I am sure is a stalwart example to your boy on how to live life and how to love, a duty excellently done without regrets.

Thank you for sharing and I render to you my heartfelt best wishes. Be strong and be brave like you have always been.

We care.

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[cc33]

It's so so hard to read things like this about someone I care about. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family, be strong, keep fighting you never know. Lots of love

[danielv2000]

Cats, my thoughts and prayers are with you, man. As a father, I truly feel for you and your son and am amazed by your courage.

[theiwcroo]

Hey Cats, I have two boys and can't imagine what you are going through. Respect, in the most dignified way, to how you are carrying yourself through a monumental struggle. Best wishes to you and your loved ones.

[OmegaPOFL]

My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

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[HaydenM]

Best wishes for you and your family

[TT88]

stay strong Cat, fighters always win.

Best wishes to you and your family.

[SSTEEL]

So sorry to read about this Cats, I know all too well what you are going through mate, my mother is currently going through the same, and her Cancer is terminal now, she is riddled with it, its in her bone marrow now.

 

Stay strong, and be positive, sadly my mother has given up, she don't leave the house anymore, and has cut all communications, no Facebook, or even reply to my texts asking how she's doing.

 

Positive thoughts mate.

[martijnp]

Cats,

 

I can't imagine what you are going through. I wish you and your family the best. 

 

Stay strong friend,

Martijn

[marrickvilleboy]

All the best - hope everytime turns out ok.

[Henry J. Miller]

May the Good Lord Bless You, Your Son and Your Family.

I am a Father and a husband. We will pray for all of you.

[Jordanf1]

Considering i'm Jewish, we shall light a candle for you ! and pray for a speedy recovery mate ! from one family to another (reh-foo-AH sheh-leh-MAH) which means a complete recovery and cure

 

[GenTLe]

When I was 7, and my father 37, I got to get the same devastating news. I lost him 2 years later, 19 March, ironically in Italy it's the father day.

I don't have many words to say mate except "try to leave the time you have as an example for your family. Spend the time as much as you can with them. Travel together. Be an example".

I tell you, we don't know each other, but I'm in the airport now and I'm full of tears... And I'm 39 now. The memory will remain, forever.

Sincerely, Alessandro.

[panerai153]

Cats, my friend, sorry to hear your news. Was hoping that your scans would be normal. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Zeal]

Sorry to hear Cats, best wishes to you and your family.